Has chivalry died? Do young men think that holding a door open for a lady is not a necessity anymore or that coming to pick her up for a date is unneeded?
I feel like this generation has distanced itself from the roots of the past generations and the chivalry that we need.
In my eyes, a guy should come to the door and greet both parents on the first date. I think they ask you out in person and bring you flowers, not just because he feels like he has to but because he wants to.
With our phones, it is more convenient for the guy to just text and ask to meet up or ask you out instead of talking to you face to face.
“Just have manners and open the door for her,” Toby Tebbe said.
I feel like it is not that hard to open the door, to be polite, and to be caring.
Most girls want a guy who is caring, sweet, funny, and a gentleman. They do not want the “copy and paste” of everyone else.
Most girls rarely care about looks more than personality. We care more about how boys act towards us and others, more than how their hair looks. I am not saying that we do not care about how you look because the representation of yourself is important, too, but I think it is very important for boys to have a good personality.
Also, do not be arrogant and rude. Rudeness is not being a gentleman, nor is it attractive.
Many girls wish that they could have a gentleman, but it is sometimes hard to find one who truly is one.
Sometimes, we are not even the only girl that a boy is talking to. This may apply to some people more than others, but hardly anyone ever wants to be just another girl that a boy has to talk to; we want to be the only girl they talk to.
I am not saying guys can not have female friends, but oftentimes, we want to be the girl a guy has his eye on.
In my opinion, girls need a good balance of independence and the princess treatment.
We want you to pay for dinner when we go out, but we do not expect you to pay all the time.
“It has always been this way since forever, but If they want to pay, they can pay,” Carter Scarcello said.
Now, if a guy asks us out, he should pay, but if it is the other way around, it could be different.
With going out at this age, driving may be a struggle. If you both drive, I think the boy should not expect the girl to drive. If she offers to do so, is different, but I think the boy should be the default driver.
Along with this, invite us places. Most of the time, we do not care what we do; we just want to spend time with you. If you want to go somewhere, even just a short drive, ask if she wants to go too. It shows that you want us there as much as we want to be there.
We care about the effort. We want to see the guys asking us to hang out instead of just us making the move to go hang out. All we ask is that the effort is somewhat equal.
This is definitely out of fashion for many people, but opening the car door for her and shutting it is a kind gesture. This is not as important; it is definitely more old-fashioned and is often not as expected. Yet, it is a gesture many girls would love to see every once in a while.
Now, let’s say you guys go on a walk, and she does not bring a coat. She starts shivering as the night goes on. This is where you offer her your coat instead of saying, “well, you should have brought a coat.” Sometimes, if you guys are joking, that is different, but do not make her feel like a burden and that it is an inconvenience to her boyfriend that you are giving her your coat.
Instead of making fun of her and being a jerk, compliment her.
Girls will think about that compliment no matter who you are. If she likes the guy, she will dwell on it even more. We love compliments just as much as you guys do. It goes both ways for men and women. It should also go without saying too. Giving us a simple compliment will make our day.
On the communication side of things, always be open with her. Always check in on her, too.
Call her and ask how her day was. It is the little things that we cherish most. Getting a text from the guy we are interested in makes our day. If it is a text saying, “Drive home safe or let me know when you get home,” it makes our smile even wider.
We just want to know that we are not the only person in the relationship who cares.
When you ask how she is, ask because you are not just to make conversation and then change the subject to you. Talk to her about what is going on in her life.
It makes us fall for you a little bit more when we see you want to know how we are doing and are willing to talk about it.
This is an important part of being a gentleman: do not make fun of your friends. Guys’ friendships are different from girls’ friendships. Our friends’ opinions of the guy we want to date matter a ton. So, you making fun of them in front of us is not winning you any brownie points, that is for sure.
Make an effort with her friends to be their friend. We do not want you to be best friends with them, though, because that makes us suspicious. We just ask that our boyfriend can be civil with our best friends.
